On Writing

The greatest respect an author can have for his public is never to produce what is expected but what he himself considers right and useful for whatever stage of intellectual development has been reached by himself and others.

Von Goethe

One NEW Thing !!!!

I would like to throw an open challenge to the readers here….

Today, after reading this piece – Do something, one thing that you have never ever done in your life!! EVER!!

Okay, here is the deal. Make this one thing. one new thing that you do today positive, good and really cool. It need not be a path breaking, spine tingling, nervous-system-exploding thing (like quitting your job, which by the way, i recently did – but oops, that is another post in the making!!)… it can be something really small, really simple but it has to be something you have never ever done!!

Maybe you could give 100 bucks to a beggar
Maybe you could call a long-time enemy and shock him by saying hi
Maybe you could simply run up the stairs of your office
Maybe you could go for a run on the beach
Maybe you could write a letter (not a mail) to your folks back home (and shock the living daylights out of them)
Maybe you could find five good things in your boss

So, guys… here is the challenge… do something you have never done it before….do it today and tell me what happenned!!!!

All the best!!!!!

PS: It would be nicer if knew how to tag someone with this…But I don’t…. so, I won’t. Unless someone out there tells me!

Abhishek’s List

One of the most revealing experiences I had was in Bombay during my summer project with Bates Advertising. There was no work in the beginning and I was spending a lot of quality time in my Xavier’s hostel room. As usual, I was reading up and doing some writing too. It is then that it struck me to make a list of all the things I have been successful at in my life. I went as far back in memory as possible and wrote down all – ALL – the things I had succeeded at. Right from my childhood till then. It was a very intense experience and I almost relived all my previous successes in the process of writing them down. It also helps to have the list ready and look at it in case you want some feel-good moments
in life.

It was a wonderful thing to do. We need to take note of good things we do and not merely feel guilty of bad about things we do not do. We should also celebrate successes in as much as we note down our failures. While it is important to note down what we have not down, noting down our accomplishments makes us feel very satisfied and confident about ourselves. Self-image, self worth and self-respect are very important ingredients for motivating us to achieve further successes in life.

There is one more aspect to this. Noticing your own accomplishments will put you on the right path to surpass your own achievements and make you to draw your strategies on your successes and not on your failures.

Today you do a simple exercise: List down all the things you have done successfully and note down your feelings as you read your list. Remember, it doesn’t have to be success as per somebody else’s definition (like topping school or something!) it just has to be something you consider a personal success. It helps to have such a list handy.

Web Resources

An absolutely great and wonderful (and as a bonus FREE) web resource is HAMR . It consists of patterns for instilling positive beliefs in your mind. (HAMR stands for Hands actuated mental reconditioning).

Another wonderful site on tools for a happier life is Lollie’s Tools for a happier Life. It is such a beautiful site. In a 4 hour browsing session where I was just visiting self-help sites, this struck me as the most genuine. Do visit and do read her stuff on getting over emotional pain (or using it – as she says) and love.

Of course, an old favourite is A K S World, the web site of nuclear scientist turned new ager Asoka Kumar Selvaharajan. Visit the discussion forum for dynamic discussions on Personal Development, Spirituality and Creative Writing. Lot of insights.

Do visit all these sites. They are good!!

Snap out the negativity

Here is something beautiful I read on getting rid of negative thoughts. Of course, the first step is becoming aware of them. You have to be on the guard, be conscious. There is no change without consciousness, without awareness. Now, for the technique.
Just tie a rubberband on your wrist. Whenever you catch yourself thinking thoughts that belittle your potential, thoughts that disempower you or thoughts that are negative, just snap the rubberband. You will hurt yourself, but the pattern will be broken and pain will be associated to the negative thought. Over a period of time, this will lead to change. So, go over and buy that pack of rubberbands today. Lets snap and break a few of them – and become more positive in the process.

Shut up

I am sure all of us have heard the critical voice inside our heads. The voice that says- “I can’t” or “I am weak” or “I am not good enough” etc. etc. The worst critic and probably the most influential one we can ever have is this critic inside our heads. Next time you hear that voice do this. Assign a face to it. (could be yours, your friends, boss or even a dog) and SLAM a PLATE FULL OF VANILLA ICECREAM INTO THIS FACE. Make it into a cartoon charecter and add funny cartoon music. Have a puppy dog come and generally pee on this face. Make it look ridiculous. Add a looooong nose or BIG ears. Suddenly you will find that the power of the inner critic over you is gone. Use it whenever this guy speaks up.